Normally, when I go for someone -- it has a lot to do with who they are as a person. Just me though.

I suggest, if you like her. Go for it, what's stopping you but a little weight? It can be lost, and it certainly isn't a deal breaker in a relationship like a shitty personality is.

I think it depends on how healthy they r and the extent to whcih they care about it. I've seen heavy people who have great vital stats, good blood pressure, and strong hearts because they eat right and exercise.

I don't think you should just judge her purely on weight; factor in how well she actually cares about her health.

if you really do like her it shouldn't matter. if it did you wouldn't like her in the first place, right? my advice is to see how she looks naked and go from there, though...

depends if its a hog hunt

If you actually like her, I don't see why size should be an issue.
In my past relationship and when I was sorta seeing this guy, they both told me I was overweight with a "pretty face". My ex of two years told me that I was gaining too much weight and that he started losing attraction towards me. The other guy told me that I'm such a "beautiful person" but I just need to "work out a little". I'm obviously biased but I cannot express to you enough how shitty that made me feel to hear that. Although I acknowledge that I am short and chunky as a person who is 4'11 wearing a size 29, I really feel that it is very superficial and also contradictory of a person on some level to claim that they care about you but that your weight matters too much.
I'm sure in an ideal world nothing would matter but the person, but I'm curious to see how other male members respond to this thread.

It would be really noticeable that she weighs more than I do if we were standing next to eachother with just a t-shirt on.

I'm not judging her on her weight. I like her who she is, I have no problem with her whatsoever. What I meant in my original post was that I would feel really insecure about my weight because of the fact that she weighs more than I do. And I'm scared that she would turn me down because of that.

Oh. Then that's totally different. I love guys of all sizes. The last two guys I was with was like half my size and although I know I'm chunky-I'm not a giant...

SFAM, rest assured that Egotist and I wholeheartedly endorse this potential relationship!

i'm doubting how much you actually like this girl, and truly questioning why she should even like you in the first place. the issue is how well you two work together in a relationship, not the physical appearance. i really truly hope you didn't mean what this post implies, because i've actually been told that i was "visually unappealing" since i was larger than the guy i was seeing. i may be bigger, both physically and emotionally...since i got over him and realized someone who actually bases anything worth debating on WEIGHT isn't worth a second thought.

the fact that people still consider this makes me sad

It may seem very superficial but it also depends on your lifestyle and health choices versus what the other person does or is willing to do. If you are really into health and athletics, the person may feel that you are implicitly trying to send her a message or she may also be intimidated by the fact that you are a lean guy and she isn't. Her view of herself is also an important thing to consider. If she is insecure with herself, size, etc then you being a smaller guy may be something difficult for her to handle.

Someone may seem chunky, but it might be that you are comparing apples and oranges, i.e. you are used to dating small-framed women. There are many people who just simply have bigger frames and can never be what you might be comparing the person to.

Weight is not so much important than health, eating and lifestyle choices as 2venus pointed out previously. If you can deal with someone leading a different eating lifestyle than you then there shouldn't be a problem.

To flip it on you, are you comfortable being smaller than the girl or do you feel that it makes you less of a man to be the smaller one in a possible relationship? Do you feel that you need to have the weight to throw around to be the 'man' in the relationship?

okay fine SFAM, you redeemed yourself. but i still mean what i posted above and judge anyone shallow enough to let this thought cross their mind.

Yes, see how she looks naked, lol!

Really, though, the weight thing really doesn't matter at all. What's important is that you are attracted to her (and it sounds like you are!!!)

I say go for it. There are more important things that will define your relationship than weight...

if she loves you, she will want to make you attracted to her and she will lose weight. If she doesnt, she doesnt love you













Its a joke...
I think appryl hit the nail on the head regarding the other things that will define your relationship

Answer : NO !

As long as you don't look like mother and son, it's absolutely irrelevant...
If you like someone, from the bottom of your heart, shallow things will be very immaterial. The more so as this typical picture of man and wife ( M > w ), in modern times, is snow of yesterday !

If u think that you're too skinny ---> BODYBUILDING + CORRESPONDING NUTRITION !

If she thinks that she's a bit too chubby ---> RUNNING + DIET !

If you do it both FOR YOURSELVES ( Not primary to be to somebodys liking ), to feel as snug as a bug in a rug, it's fine ! But you can kill two birds with one stone, in order that you'll feel even more attracted to each other, than anyway.

There's not a single reason to doubt...

LMFAO